Takapuna, Auckland and online across New Zealand
Counselling and therapy for individuals, couples and families, with a specialist focus on addiction, trauma and problematic sexual behaviour. Patterns are learned, which is the whole reason they can be changed.
Why Repattern
You have had the same argument enough times to know your lines by heart. Or you promised yourself last month was the last time, and it was not. Or you cannot point to anything actually wrong, and still cannot get off the couch.
None of that is a character flaw. It is a pattern, learned somewhere, for a reason that probably made sense at the time. The trouble is that patterns outlive their usefulness and keep running anyway.
Counselling here is about finding the pattern, understanding what it was protecting you from, and then doing the slow, unglamorous work of building a different one. That is where the name comes from.
What makes this different
There is a clinical structure behind the work here, particularly for addiction, trauma and problematic sexual behaviour.
A structured pathway for pornography and problematic sexual behaviour, built around what the behaviour is doing rather than a promise to make you stop.
The Repattern Programme →Assessment, formulation, treatment, review and maintenance. Progress measured on how you are actually functioning, not on attendance.
How I work →ACC trauma and sensitive claims work, postgraduate study in addictive behaviours, and lecturing in counselling at university level.
About Kyle →What I work with
You do not need to pick the right one. Most people bring two or three of these tangled together, and sorting that out is part of the work.
For couples stuck in the same argument, and for people working out what they want from a relationship. Seventy minute sessions, both partners in the room.
Read more →Private, non judgemental work on compulsive sexual behaviour, the shame that keeps it hidden, and the repair that follows disclosure.
Read more →Alcohol and drug use that has stopped being a choice. Practical work on triggers, relapse and the life that use has been standing in for.
Read more →For the flat, tight, exhausting stretches that have gone on long enough to feel normal. Understanding the pattern, then changing it.
Read more →Paced, careful work with things that happened and have not finished happening. You set the speed, and nothing gets forced.
Read more →For loss of any kind, recent or long carried, including the losses other people expect you to be over by now.
Read more →Families under strain and teenagers who have stopped talking. Work with the whole system, not just the person carrying the symptom.
Read more →A ninety minute assessment that maps what is actually going on and what would help, with a written summary you keep.
Read more →Most people arrive with more than one of these tangled together. Start with a free call and we will work out where to begin.
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Who you would be seeing
I am a counsellor and therapist based in Takapuna, and a member of the New Zealand Association of Counsellors, which means I work to the NZAC code of ethics and under regular professional supervision.
I work with individuals, couples, families and teenagers. My particular interest is in addiction and relationship work, which tend to be the two areas people are most reluctant to talk about and most relieved to finally say out loud.
You will not get a blank face and a notepad. I will ask direct questions, I will tell you what I think, and I will say so if I do not believe I am the right person to help you.
Also at Repattern
Janai is a counsellor with experience in family harm, harmful sexual behaviour, grief, anxiety and depression, and a practice grounded in person-centred, narrative, attachment and Internal Family Systems approaches.
In Janai's words: "I aim to offer a space that feels safe, non-judgemental and human, a place where people can arrive as they are."
How it works
You tell me roughly what is going on. I tell you honestly whether I am the right person. No cost, and no obligation to book.
We take our time working out the shape of the problem and what you want to be different. You do not have to have it all worked out beforehand.
Usually weekly at first, moving to fortnightly as things settle. You decide how long you come for, and you can stop at any time.
Fees
No sign up fee, no minimum number of sessions, and no charge for the first phone call.
One to one work. Usually weekly to begin with, then spaced out as things settle.
Longer for a reason. Two people need more room than one, and rushing the end of a couples session helps nobody.
A proper mapping of what is going on, with a written summary you keep. Not a standard intake.
Where we meet
A quiet, private room in Takapuna, easy to reach from Devonport, Milford, Northcote, Albany and the city over the bridge. Some people need to be in the room, and that is a real thing, not a preference.
Counselling in Takapuna →Secure video sessions that work as well as being in the room for most people, and better for anyone in a small town where the counsellor is also the person at the school gate.
Online counselling →That is exactly what the free 10 minute call is for. You do not have to explain everything, and there is no pressure to book anything afterwards.
Counselling and therapy with Kyle Lee, NZAC member. In person in Takapuna on Auckland's North Shore, and online across New Zealand.
The first step is a free 10 minute phone call. No cost, no obligation, and no need to explain everything at once.
Book a free callIf you are in crisis, do not wait for an appointment. Call or text 1737 any time to talk with a trained counsellor, or call 111 in an emergency. More options on our crisis support page.
© 2026 Repattern Counselling & Therapy. Kyle Lee, NZAC member.