The clinical approach
Structured, without being mechanical
There is a clear pathway behind the work here: assessment, formulation, treatment, review and maintenance. It is not general counselling with a nice website.
The clinical approach
There is a clear pathway behind the work here: assessment, formulation, treatment, review and maintenance. It is not general counselling with a nice website.
The question underneath
Most people do not arrive with a tidy diagnosis. They arrive saying that something keeps happening. They keep going back to pornography, to a drink, to the same argument, to avoidance, even though part of them genuinely wants it to be different.
Telling someone in that position to stop is not treatment. So the starting question here is a different one: how did this pattern get established, what is keeping it going now, what job is it doing, and what could be built in its place?
The pathway
Not everyone needs every stage, and not every person who comes here is an addiction case. The assessment decides the pathway.
You get in touch, or someone refers you. A free 10 minute call works out whether this is the right place.
We build a picture of the problem, the risk, how you are functioning, the history, and what you actually want.
We work out what contributes to the problem and, more usefully, what is maintaining it right now.
Individual counselling, the 12 week programme, couples work, or a combination, depending on what the formulation says.
Progress measured on functioning and meaningful change, not on attendance or a streak. The formulation gets revised if it is wrong.
You build a plan for holding it, keep going if you need to, or step down. Ending well is part of the work.
Clinical style
The work follows an understanding of your situation, not a template applied to everyone with the same presenting problem.
Harm, secrecy and responsibility get taken seriously. You do not get reduced to a behaviour or a label.
You should leave with something you understand differently and something you can actually practise outside the room.
Trauma is explored when it is relevant and at a pace you set. It is not forced into every explanation.
When a behaviour affects a partner, that impact is clinically meaningful, not a footnote to someone else's recovery.
Drawing on CBT, ACT, motivational work, mindfulness, emotion regulation and relapse prevention, while being honest that the evidence base in this area still has real gaps.
Written resources
Alongside the sessions there are client workbooks, worksheets, assessment tools and maintenance plans that I have written. They draw on CBT, ACT, mindfulness, emotion regulation and relapse prevention, and they exist so that an hour a week turns into something you can use on a Tuesday night.
They also keep the work consistent. You are not relying on whether I happen to remember what we covered in week three.
That is exactly what the free 10 minute call is for. You do not have to explain everything, and there is no pressure to book anything afterwards.
Counselling and therapy with Kyle Lee, NZAC Provisional Member. In person in Takapuna on Auckland's North Shore, and online across New Zealand.
The first step is a free 10 minute phone call. No cost, no obligation, and no need to explain everything at once.
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